Don't want to get my hopes up!!!

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Don't want to get my hopes up!!!

Hi

Just wondered if anyone in the same situation as me. AF is a couple of days late! Not sure if I have real symptoms of pregnancy or if I am just imagining them.



Do not want to test as to worried about getting BFN! Have had an occasional sharp twinge in my lower right abdomen since CD21 and bloating. Breasts seem tender and slightly enlarged but only since this morning. Please let me know your experiences.

Hoping for BFP!

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Oh well, supposed cd 30 has now turned into cd1!! AF showed itself early evening :-( Dreams shattered for another month! Now going to start charting! Anyone else on cd1?

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Sorry Sammy :-( CD 1 for me as well! It sucks, but hey we get another chance this new cycle, right?

Yeah that's what I always tell myself. It's the hope that it will happen each cycle that gets me through AF! Got to be positive. We'll have to keep each other posted! Been TTC conceive for a year now. Suceeded twice but sadly had a missed miscarriage both times. Its now been 7 months since my second miscarriage. The annoying thing is, I fell straight away with the 2 pregnancy that i lost. Starting charting today for the first time, worried maybe still not ovulating or something. Do you chart? I haven't really got a clue but gonna give it a go! Here's to us this cycle. Loadsa luck and babydust!

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SAMMY,
I am so sorry for your losses! It is a horrible experience! Unfortunately, I know it first hand! I lost my baby in April, which is 7 months today. Also missed m/c. Makes me think we got pregnant roughly the same time and lost our babies roughly the same time :-( I too got pregnant rather quickly with all my pregnancies, but it has been 5 cycles for us now with no success so far. I am trying hard to stay optimistic. I am doing CD 3 blood work soon and an HSG next Thursday. I want to make sure everything is OK down there after the D&C. Very nervous!
Good luck to both of us! Maybe we will get pregnant roughly the same time again :-) Hopefully, we will have a great outcome SOON! I am always here to give and receive support!

Renee
Thank u so much for your kind msg of support. Am so sorry bout ur loss. It can make u feel so alone. I'm always here 4 u. My MMC will be 7 months ago on the 24th of Nov. Wld of been due next wk, 17th Nov. So struggling a bit at the mo. Found out at 10 wk scan had stopped forming at 6 wks.
Will be thinking of u tomorrow and next Thurs. When will you get results? Let me know how u get on, I'm sure all will be fine. It'll be peace of mind 4 u and hopefully help u relax and that will help things happen. Altough I Know relaxing is easier said than done after what we've been through and TTC comes with lots of stress and anxieties at the best of times! I use a relaxation and self hypnosis CD I got off the internet to help me relax. It's called ' prepare to conceive.' I find it helps.
My docor will not do any tests til nx april, 1 yr after 2nd MMC. Have stated seeing a homeopath as an alternative. She helped a friend through the same troubles.
I chose to wait for my MMC to be lost naturally instead of having a D&C. It took 2 wks for the miscarriages to complete, felt like forever. I was too scared to have D&C as scared of being put to sleep for the procdure. You are very brave!
Here's to us both falling pregnant this cycle! That would be excellent! Always here for you and thank you agan for your support ;-)

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SAMMY,
You are more than welcome! And thank you! Your support is well appreciated! It can get tough sometimes.
I did the CD 3 blood work today. According to my Dr. today is CD 3 even though I just spotted on CD 1. But since I had heavy bleeding yesterday she considered it CD 2 and wanted me to do the blood work today. I am not sure when the results will be in. Maybe on Monday, I hope! This whole thing is rather stressful. I just turned 38 and I am no longer a spring chicken ;-) The results of the HSG are pretty instant, cause they see it right away. My Dr. is going to be there too, so I believe she will tell me what she sees. I hope! I pray all of the tests are OK and then I will be able to relax a bit. Maybe :-)
I actually had the D&C while I was wide awake. No anesthesia! It was painful, but I have survived. I didn't want to wait and schedule it with the hospital and walk around with a dead baby inside of me. So, actually I think YOU are brave! I just wanted to get it over with physically, so I can begin to heal emotionally. Tough experience! The D&C didn't seem to have any complications and I got my period about 33 days later, but who knows if it did any damage. I sure hope and pray it didn't! I will know more on Thursday.
Why does your Dr. refuse to give you tests till a year after m/c? Are you concerned cause you haven't been successful yet? I know I am... There is always that "what if...?"
Where are you in your cycle?

Renee

Let me know your results on monday. Lets hope Thurday comes round quickly for you. At least you get the results straight away. Again, will be thinking of you!
I didn't have the option of staying awake during a D&C otherwise I prob would of had it done. It was hard waiting for things to happen but I figured that my body wouldn't complete miscarriage until my mind had accepted it a bit and started to let go.
Think everyone that goes through miscarriage is brave abd it takes a lot of bravery to start TTC again as that in itself is an emotional rollercoaster.
I live in the UK and tha rules are that they will not run any test until you have had 3 consecutive miscarriages or been TTC for 1 yr. They take my miscarriages as successful conception even though they were non viable pregnancies. Not fair. I think that whoever made those rules can't of experinced what we have been trough. I worry all the time that something is wrong. I would love to have tests as I think that would help me relax. I have a 2 yr old son so my doctor said that at least I know everyting works ok. But I can't help but think, 'that was 2 years ok. Things might of changed and what if.....'
Lets hope for this month. I am now on CD3.

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Sammy,
Where in the UK are you? I have been to London (of course) twice. My sister lived there for two years with her family, so I came to visit. I loved it! So much to do!
Those rules suck! Here in the US it really depends who is your Dr. and what insurance you have. I am lucky to have Dr. who lets me have input into what we are doing with MY BODY. She respects my opinion and views. I actually asked for the blood work and the HSG and she was "OK". I am also lucky to have an insurance who pays up to $10,000 for any infertility treatment. Since HSG is considered infertility test they will cover it. So for me it was a no brainer. I will get important information and my insurance will pay for the test. Sounds about right to me ;-)
I totally understand your worry, but hopefully it was just a bad fluke and everything is just fine with you. We have to enter every cycle with positivity and hope that it will produce the outcome we so wish for. We are almost the same day of the cycle :-) When do you normally O?
BTW, now I understand why you write at some weird, late at night times ;-)

Renee,
I live about 60 miles away from London near Portsmouth. Where abouts did your sister live? I've never been to America. Always wanted to. Where abouts are you?
Its excellent that you have infertility treatment cover on your Healthcare insurance. Would be great if I could have tests. Anyway positive thinking from now on, hey!
I'm not sure exactly when I ovulate. I normally just go by my CM which I nomally have anywhere between CD13 and 18. I have started temping this month. Gonna see how I get on with it. Doing it really just to make sure that I O and check LP! When do you normally O? Do you chart? I hope you do, then I know where to come when I get stuck if that, ok! ;-)

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Sammy,
My sister lived in Golders Green. It was long time ago. I was there with DH. We didn't have our girls then. Seems like a different era :-) We live in Palo Alto, California. It is 30 minutes south of San Francisco. Beautiful area with the best weather. You should come visit one of these days :-)
I actually do not chart. I charted 3 months the other time we TTC (before the m/c) and it just added stress for me. One more thing to obsess about. And I don't really need to anyway, because I know exactly when I ovulate. I get so many symptoms like CM, sore breasts, pain in ovary (right or left depending which ovulates), heat waves, etc. So, there is really no need for me to add stress to an already stressful process. But, it is educational. I have learnt that my LP is 13 days long with charting, which is within normal range. Some women have shorter LP and it's good to know and get help with that. Some women don't get that many signs they O and it's good to check temp and figure that out. Do you have no pain when you O? No other symptom other than CM? That amazes me. I always thought every woman gets all of the symptoms I get. It amazes me how different everyone's body is and how some woman can O without knowing.

Bet its lovely there. All we've had for the last few days is rain and more rain. I'm going to London tonight on the train so hope the weather clears up. Would love to visit but its costs a lot of money! We've not been overseas since having DS. Even before then we only ever went in Europe.
That's what I've never charted before as thought it would cause to much stress. Gonna see how I go but don't think it'll last long. Would like to try for a while though just to check things out.
I sometimes get an O pain but haven't had them since 2nd miscarriage and CM has only been appearing during the last couple of cycles. Think my body just taking ages to get back to normal after going through 2 MMC quite close togther. I only left 1 cycle in between and then fell straight away. Reall did think I would fall straight away again but think my body just telling me it needs a rest.
Hope all ok with you. Not long now til you get bloodwork results. Hope your keeping busy this wk end ;-)

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I am sure it took a toll on your body to have 2 m/c so close together. Don't underestimate the emotional toll that may effect your hormones. Find ways to sooth yourself and relax, so your body will realize "we are OK now to have babies" :-) I am a firm believer in the connection between the mind and the body. We got to get our minds in the right place and then our body will follow. It's a good thing your fertile CM came back. That's a great sign!

I actually think now I will only get my b/w on Wednesday :-( My OB only works part time and she is not in the clinic on Monday and Tuesday. I am also concerned that I may have done the CD 3 test on CD 2 and how that may effect the results. I have spotted the first day and since I had heavy bleeding on the 2nd day my OB told me to count the spotting as CD 1. I guess I will have to trust her to know what she is doing, but I am a little nervous about it.

Last night I got REALLY anxious about the HSG test. What if they tell me my tubes are BOTH blocked? That will be the end of my TTC journey and that scares me so much! I know I need to think positively, but those thoughts come to me. Am I crazy or do you think most women are terrified when they do a test like that? I am also nervous because sometimes they get false positives due to spasms. So, the tubes aren't really blocked, but they spasm so they look blocked. They can either test you again and see if they get different result, or they can do a surgery to go in there and check. Either way, I hate it! Maybe it's a good thing you don't get tested :-)

Lets hope you do get your bloodwork results before Wed. It not nice having to wait. I hope that your results aren't affected by the day that you had them. I'm sure it won't the doctor would've of rearranged them if she thought you weren't on the right cycle day to have them.

I really don't think that you are crazy. I would be so so anxious as well. You need to be positive but that's easier said than done! You are going to think of all the possibilities. its natural to worry. I think you should still have the HSG though. I think I'd rather know either way if I had the chance. I am sure all is fine. I think you are just the same as me. You just want it so bad and are worrying so much that there is something wrong that are bodies are just not letting it happen. Its great that we have started chatting as we can get things off our chests instead of holding on to all of our negative feeilngs and thoughts and be there for each other. I don't really have anyone I can talk to things about really and when I do try to talk to friends or family about it they just change the subject. I do try and write how I feel down a lot to try and get it out. Then I rip it up and chuck it in the bin.

I'll be thinking of you and praying hard. Here for you ;-)

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Thank you, Sammy! I need the support and understanding! TTC is so challenging and when you add the m/c into the mix it gets really challenging! I believe you are right about us being nervous, so our bodies don't work properly. To be honest, I am so scared to not have a BFP and I am so scared to get one. I know that the next BFP wil be bitter sweet. I am going to be happy of course that it happened for us again and I have hope, but I am going to be terrified out of my mind that something will be wrong again that I will not be able to relax at least until can see the h/b. I will probably won't be able to relax after that too!
I hear you about not having anyone to talk to. Unless you TTC and are challenged by it, you don't really know what it's like and you can't really relate. Other people can't talk about TTC for so long and we can talk about it ALL THE TIME. It is such a big part of lour lives that we NEED to talk about it a lot. It's the way we process it and go through it. I have to tell you, every time I get AF it reminds me of the baby I have lose. It is so painful! How are you coping with your losses? I am so truly sorry that you had to go through this hell twice! It's just not fair! Did you have support going through it? I felt so alone then! I didn't feel that anyone truly understood me. DH tired to be there for me best he could, but there was only so much he could talk about it and help me sort through my emotions. I have good friends I could to, but I didn't feel like I wanted to drag them down with me every time I felt the need to talk about it. Do you think you have processed it and moved on?
I am also here for you...ALWAYS! We can talk about whatever it is you want to talk about for however long you want/need to :-)

Thank you to you too! Its awful that I have to think someone else is in the same sistuatio as me but also great to get you support and be able to support you!
I know how you feel about getting a BFP. I am so disappointed when AF arrives but also then have this sense of relief that it least it means I've not got another chance to MC and that each month that passes will be better for my body and will help the outcome when it happens. Altough evey month that goes by I feel more and more ready.
Don't think being pregnant will ever be the same as that fear will always be there. It will get lesser as the months of preganancy progrss but don't think it will go untl you hold you newborn in your arms and know that they are healthy and safe!
TTC is the main thing I think about. There's not a day when I don't think about it. I always feel better though once AF has stopped as then I really start to feel hopeful and posistive. Like you said, AF just brings it all back. Roll on O day!
I know what you mean about not wanting to drag others down. I have people I could talk to and do sometimes but I don't think they see how much I really hurt. I never really cry in front of anyone so as time has gone by it feels like everyone else has forgotton and that's where the loneliness comes in. DH tries to be supportive but it winds me up that he is so calm about TTC and patient. My DS is who really got me through. Have to be strong for haim and when I look at him remainds me of how luky I am. He brings me so much joy and I love seeing him learn new things.
Her's hoping its this month for the both of us. Can't wait for AF to stop. Roll on O day. Lets hope that all is ok with your tests this week and that we are both surrounded by plenty of babydust!!! Yay! ;-)

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Same here! My girls are the ones who gave me strength through this difficult experience. My love for them and their love back is the ultimate light of my day! I am completely and utterly in love with them! I just went shopping for clothes with Ariel (my almost 11 year old) and we had so much fun! We tried on clothes, talk about what's going on with her friends, discussed what's going on between boys and girls at the her school, etc. She is such a fun and funny girl and I truly enjoy hanging out with her. Talya, my 7 year old, is a huge ball of love! She is so warm and cuddly! She always expresses how much she loves DH and I. Just the other day she told me "mommy, I am so lucky I was born to you! I wouldn't want to have any other mommy in the world. You are the best mommy!". My heart just melted! She expresses her appreciation and love like that ALL THE TIME! I am crazy about her! And you know what, 2 weeks before I conceived Talya I had a m/c. I was only 5 weeks when I had the m/c and I knew the pregnancy wasn't progressing well, cause the HPT didn't get any darker. It stayed very faint all the time till my body let it all out. I was really sad, but decided to try again right away since my Dr. told me no reason to wait. Sure enough 2 weeks later I fell pregnant again with my baby girl. Now, I am SO thankful I got HER and no other baby :-) I guess it is just faith! We are sad now for our losses, but when we meet the baby we are meant to have, maybe we will understand why we had to wait :-) Here's hoping!!!

Definately, they will be worth waiting for!! They will come to us when they are ready. Your girls sound lovely, its great that you have such a lovely close relationship with them. I love my little man so much to he is so cuddley and affectionate. He makes everyting ok! He's poorly at the moment. I hate seeing him unwell.
DH has got to work away from home all wk this wk which is ok, just hope he's not called away for fertile days the wk after. Otherwise that definately will be it over for another month! Arhhhh!
Hope you are ok! ;-)

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Oh, I am sorry your son isn't feeling well! Does he have a cold? He is so young! It's hard to see the little ones under the weather. As a mom, you wish you can suffer for him :-( I hope he will recover fast!
That will not be good if DH will be away in fertile days! I know it's "only" a month, but boy it seems like a whole year! When I had the D&C we had to wait 2 cycles to TTC again and those 2 months crawled so slowly it was unbelievable! I hope for you that would NOT happen!

He has got a virus. Sickness, upset tummy, temperature, runny nose and a really awful cough. Like you said you wish you could be ill for him. Took him to see the doctor today said just to keep giving him Capol for the temp.
Spoke to DH this evening, he said hopefully he won't be away, so keeping my fingers crossed that doesn't change. I should think those 2 cycles did feel like forever. Are you ok to TTC afer HSG?
Hope all ok with you ;-)

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Oh, poor thing! That sounds awful! I really do hope this virus goes away fast and leave your baby alone :-(
I will keep my fingers crossed for you as well! That would just suck! Does DH travel a lot on business? That would definitely makes things more challenging for you!
There is no trouble TTC after an HSG. That is why they are careful to do it only between CD 7-10, right after the bleeding stops and before ovulation. The good thing about an HSG is that it can potentially open minor blockages one may have. So, fertility rates increases up to 3 months after an HSG. Here's hoping and praying :-)

He's been a lot better today so fingers crossed he is over the worst. Going to get his photo taken tomorrow for family xmas pictures so hope he'll be up to it!!!
DH usually only goes away on business maybe once or twice every 6 months or so but its been more often just lately.Altough must not complain as the extra money comes in handy this time of year! The past few times he's been haven't been at important times of the month and still as far as we know won't be this month so fingers crossed. just really don't want to miss any opportunity.
That's great that they time doing HSG so it doesn't effect your TTC. Am hoping for you that it brings good news and would be brill if it could possibly increase your fertility.
Let me know if you get your blood work results. ;-)

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SAMMY,
I am so happy your son is doing better! I hope he is even better now. It has been 3 days, wow! I was so nervous and consumed by my HSG. I am very happy to announce that it went great and as the Dr. said :it all looks beautiful!". Yay :-) I also got my CD3 b/w back and Dr. said they were great! So, all in all I had a great day yesterday! Now, I am just waiting for the bleeding and spotting to stop. It has been more scarce today, but still here. I have heard fro mother women here that they had 3 days of light bleeding and spotting. A little like light AF, so I guess it's normal.
How are you doing? O is coming up soon! Have you started the marathon yet? :-)

That is brilliant news. I have been anxiously waiting for you to post how things are. I am so pleased everything looks great. I bet you couldn't think of anything else waiting for it all to be over! Hopefully the spotting will stop soon as O on the way. Its good that you can meet people on here that can advise you so you know all is normal with the spotting. A bit of reassurance.
DS is much better now thankyou. He's not a very happy bunnt though as now he is teething. Can you belive he's still got 10 teeth to cut!
DH got back last night and yes, the marathon has started!!! Can't beleive O is nearly here? It has come round quick. All ok. Been taking my homeopathic remedy to try and keep my hormones in check.
Crossing everything for us both. Hopefully this month!! Babydust **************************************************************************************************************

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Thank you, Sammy! I feel very hopeful now and I haven't had that feeling in a long time! I think we are going to start the marathon today. I already detected EWCM, so I figured we need to start :-) I was hoping it will take a little longer after the HSG so my cervix will have time to recover, but I guess this is the time...
Wow, I can't believe your son has 10 more teeth to go! It may be that I don't remember the timing of things (my baby is already 7 and has already lost quite a few of her her baby teeth), but I thought that by 2 you have most of the teeth in.
Poor thing! I may not remember the timing of things, but I do remember the terrible experiences around teeth coming out; teeth ache, ear ache, runny nose, drooling, sleepless nights. Anything else I am forgetting? ;-) I sure hope he goes through it relatively well! I truly hate seeing those little ones suffer!!!
AND good luck to both of us this cycle! May it be a very fertile cycle!!! What CD are you now?

Thank u.He's been grumpy all day, Looks like he's got 4 teeth coming at once!
I've already started getting the signs of O being close. Not sure exactly what day it might happen as cycles have been slightly different by a day or two the last coupke of cycles between 28 and 31. Have already given up on temping as when DS was ill was up all night a few nights so it all went out the window. Think it would've stressed me out any way. We've conceived with out temping before so gonna leave it in gods hands! Good luck to us both. Poistive thinking!!!
Just a waiting game now for the next couple of weeks. Again, I am so pleased that your results came back so great. I am so hopeful for you its the news you have needed to help you to relax. I so wanna fall at the same time as you. Would love to go through my pregnancy with you!!!

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4 teeth coming out together! Now, that's brutal :-( No wonder he is grumpy! I would be too! How is he feeling today?
I totally get you about temping! As I have mentioned it didn't work for me. You can definitely get pregnant without temping. It's just a tool to give you more info, but if you know when your fertile time is and BD, that's all it takes :-)
I am starting to feel some O pain, so BD is on :-) I would LOVE to get a BFP with you! Would be awesome to go through pregnancy together! Here's hoping :-)

He is much better now Thank you. Think he has worn himself out this past week as he settle to sleep tonight no problems. Hopefuly he's going to get a good nights sleep. Bless him. Hope you and your family are well!
I'm CD 12 now. Think you asked me your post before last. I'm not sure but got a problem on this website as on every post I can not read the last couple of words on each sentence. Just read them back and worked out what maybe it said.
Think your the same CD as me? It good that you get O pain. It's a real definate sign that O is happening. I used to but like I said don't anymore so I'm not entirely sure what CD exactly O happens. I'm fed up of keep buying and taking OPK's so just BD and hope for the best really. How long before O do you get your pain and how long does it normally last for?
I'm really tearful at the moment. Always do at around this part of my cycle. Don't know why, anything could start me off! Never used to get that either? Have you ever heard of anyone being like that around O or do you ever get like that?
Gonna send loads more babydust ;-)

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He is much better now Thank you. Think he has worn himself out this past week as he settle to sleep tonight no problems. Hopefuly he's going to get a good nights sleep. Bless him. Hope you and your family are well!
I'm CD 12 now. Think you asked me your post before last. I'm not sure but got a problem on this website as on every post I can not read the last couple of words on each sentence. Just read them back and worked out what maybe it said.
Think your the same CD as me? It good that you get O pain. It's a real definate sign that O is happening. I used to but like I said don't anymore so I'm not entirely sure what CD exactly O happens. I'm fed up of keep buying and taking OPK's so just BD and hope for the best really. How long before O do you get your pain and how long does it normally last for?
I'm really tearful at the moment. Always do at around this part of my cycle. Don't know why, anything could start me off! Never used to get that either? Have you ever heard of anyone being like that around O or do you ever get like that?
Gonna send loads more babydust ;-)

Sammy

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SAMMY,
To read the entire post you need to copy the post ans paste
it in the reply spot. Then you will be able to see the whole thing.
I am CD 12 or 13 (depending if I count the spotting as CD1 which my OB does). I experience O pain about 2-3 days before O. It starts off softly just a sensitivity. Then it intensifies and is more obvious especially when I move around. I can feel it when I am in the process of sitting down. My temp goes up a day after the pain stops. So, I have O pain then a day without pain and the following day my temp goes up. That is my norm. Sometimes the pain is only one day sometimes 3-4. Usually about 2 days. It's really nice cause I get a preparation. I know it's coming. It makes timing the BD so much easier. Of course, I don't appreciate the discomfort so much when we are not TTC, but when do it sure comes handy ;-)
I think it is very normal the emotionality you are experiencing. There is a lot of hormonal fluctuation around O and every time that happens we may be subjected to feeling emotional. For me, it is mainly during the 2WW. I can cry over ANYTHING! I wouldn't worry about feeling emotional. Maybe the losses you have experienced are contributing to this somehow. Maybe every time you are facing the chance of becoming pregnant again, which hides in it the possibility and fear of losing a baby again it stirs up emotions for you. Don't deny your feelings just flow with them. They are here to teach you something! (if you haven't figured it out by now, I am a psychotherapist :-) LOL.
I am glad DS went to sleep easily! I hope he has a good night sleep and SO DO YOU!

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BTW,
Your post appearing under my name is me copying and pasting
your post to be able to read it and then accidentally hitting the post
reply button :-)

Oh Thank you Renee. It was driving me mad.
Thank you also for your advice on my emotions that I get. Wow, a psychotherapist. Do you work with adults and children? I'd find that very interesting. I do tend to just cry when I feel the need but hate that feeling when you don't know why you feel like crying. I'll be here for you then when it's your turn to be emotionl during 2WW!

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I worked as a school psychologist for 2 years. Now I work at a counseling center. I see adults. I will soon start seeing couples and families. My greatest passion is working with groups, especially women around body image, self image and finding ones sense of strength. I love supporting people through their journey to becoming the best they can be and finding ways to live the best lives they can possibly have! So I do not work with psychiatric patients, just "normal" people struggling through life. People fascinate me! I could either become an anthropologist or a psychologist. I decide the latter since I wanted to do more than just study people I want to make a difference! Not that anthropologists don't make a difference, but I think you know what I mean...
What is your passion?

I think it's a fantastic job that you do and really do make a diference. I have had help and support in the past from a psychologist and recovery support worker and was helped through some low times in my life. I learnt so much and am very grateful. They definately made a difference to me and my life. Think the area that you work in sounds fasinating. I bet it took a lot of hard work and studying to be where you are now. There are so many people out there that struggle with self image fo many reasons.
At the moment I am a full time Mum but am normally a dental nurse. I really miss it but at the moment am enjoying being a Mummy and looking forward to having more babies. Will definately go back once I have had my family.
I think your amazing as I bet your job can be emotionally draining for you and then being busy being a Mum and then on top of that facing your own life challenges.
Hope all ok with you :-)

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Thank you for saying that! It did take a lot of work to get to where I am today and will take a lot more work to get to where I want to be! But the nice thing is that when you engage in what you are passionate about, it never really feels like "work". It does take a lot of toll on me and there are times when I come home and just want to be left alone for some uninterrupted quiet time. That of course is rarely possible, LOL. I have an amazing husband who is a great support for me, but he has a demanding job himself and cannot always be there when I need him to. My family lives far away, so they can't help :-( It's challenging, but we make it work.
Being a mommy is a full time job! There is so much to do! You will know when the right time is to go back to work. Do you have anyone helping you out? Do you get to have some ME time?
I am so glad you had people who supported you through rough times in life! We all face challenges, but if you have a guiding hand you can come out on the other side stronger and more insightful. I went through therapy myself, which ultimately changed my life and brought me to where I am today. So, I know how important that is!
Now, we were brought here to support one another in yet another challenge :-) So glad to have met you!!!

I feel the same. I am so pleased that we have met and can be here for each other. I always look forward to hearing from you.
It must be awful that your family are so far away. I am really lucky as mine are pretty close so see them often and get there help. Do you speak to them often?
Like you I don't get a lot of me time but when I do I really make the most of it!
My partner is really helpful and gives me a hand around the house when he gets in from work. I really appreciate it as he leaves for work very early every day and is probably very tiered. Sounds like we are both very lucky to have loving and supportive husbands.
I have been so tearful and anxious this cycle about approaching ovulation and TTC. I worry so much that we are going to miss it for another month. Think DH and I are putting so much pressure on ourselves. We need to chill out! We are both so ready for another baby to join are family.
O is due for me to happen today or tommorow. I am really feeling like the pressure is on this month. Also, I am not sure if I am imagining it but had a slight twinge of pain aroung my left ovary area. Like a throbbing, nothing major but hoping maybe I've got O pain? It might just be me though analyising everything that my body does.
Hope everything is going well with you. Do you think you have O yet. Hoping for us both ;-)

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I feel the same. I am so pleased that we have met and can be here for each other. I always look forward to hearing from you.
It must be awful that your family are so far away. I am really lucky as mine are pretty close so see them often and get there help. Do you speak to them often?
Like you I don't get a lot of me time but when I do I really make the most of it!
My partner is really helpful and gives me a hand around the house when he gets in from work. I really appreciate it as he leaves for work very early every day and is probably very tiered. Sounds like we are both very lucky to have loving and supportive husbands.
I have been so tearful and anxious this cycle about approaching ovulation and TTC. I worry so much that we are going to miss it for another month. Think DH and I are putting so much pressure on ourselves. We need to chill out! We are both so ready for another baby to join are family.
O is due for me to happen today or tommorow. I am really feeling like the pressure is on this month. Also, I am not sure if I am imagining it but had a slight twinge of pain aroung my left ovary area. Like a throbbing, nothing major but hoping maybe I've got O pain? It might just be me though analyising everything that my body does.
Hope everything is going well with you. Do you think you have O yet. Hopin

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Did it again, LOL! Posted your post :-)

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Tomorrow is Thanksgiving here and for me it's a time of really focusing on all the blessings I have. We ARE lucky to have such loving and supporting husbands and I do not take it for granted! I see so many couples who are not happy together and I feel so thankful for my blessing. DH and I are together 17 years now and I am constantly falling in love with him again and again! I am so glad that you have a supportive partner! As I see it this is the reason couples get together in the first place; to support each other through life's journey and anything it may entail. The falling in love and the fireworks is just the initial stage and is far less important then the relationship you build later on. Let's cherish the relationships we have managed to nurture and enjoy picking up the fruit of our hard work :-)
There is a lot of stress when TTC. For us, I am the one putting some pressure. DH is not at all stressed. He is actually very content with having two girls. The third child idea is all mine :-) He is supportive, but will be happy either way! I used to be really stressed about stressing :-) I read an article thought that said that stress can affect fertility when it is acute. Stressing about getting pregnant is normal and usually will not affect the outcome. That gave me some relief and I hope it does for you too! Now, try to figure out ways to relax. I am not sure what you like to do. For me, I like watching comedies. Laughing is a great way to unwind. I also exercise and use mental imaging to help me relax. I will go to "my place" (in my head) which is the ocean. I grew up near the ocean and used to go there to relax. I can smell the water, hear the waves and look at them going back and forth, listen to the birds, pick up little rocks and throw them into the water and hear the sound they make. That image in my head makes me very relaxed and calm. Maybe you can find your own place. I do that with my clients too. I sometime have them draw that place too and they can hang it up on a wall at home and connect with their inner piece whenever they need to. It's a very powerful too! Ultimately, you just need to find a relaxing strategy that works for you. Our lives are full with stresses and it is imperative to find a way to get out of it even for a little while...
Back to TTC :-) I believe I should be Oing today. Remember I have mentioned that some months I feel O pain for3- 4 days...Well, this is one of these months :-) I started feeling them on Saturday and I still felt them yesterday even more intensely. It seems like the pressure has finally released and I am pretty pain free so far. Still some sensitivity, but not as intense. I still have EWCM so I am thinking today is O day. I hope it is!
Wow, seems like we O around the same time :-)

I hope you and your family enjoy your time togther tommorrow for Thanks giving. We don't have Thanks giving here which is a shame as I think everyone should have a day where we are Thankful and reflect on how lucky we are. We all have such busy lifes and think it's really imortant to take time out to be grateful. Will be thinking of you and will have my own little Thanks giving here!
My partner is normally pretty relaxed about TTC but this month we have both really felt it. Its now nearly one year since I found out I was pregnant with the first pregnancy that we lost so maybe that's part of it. Thank you for letting me know about that article. That really helps. It's difficult not to stress when TTC so at least now we know it shouldn't affect conception!
Laughter is definately an excellent medicine and really helps me feel better. I can not believe that your favourite place is the ocean. I went to the cinema last night with a friend and its not far from the coast. When we got there I went and stood by the sea and breathed in the fresh air instantly making me feel better. It was very cold but I love the sound of the sea. I love the beach and will use that like you suggest, Thank you. I had such a good night last night and feel so much better today. When I got back DH was waiting up for me and we both were much more relaxed with each other.
I think O happened for me yesterday or today. Not sure if still have EWCM today or not (sorry if TMI) but I sometimes get confused as of the other it could be, so not sure. I'm sure I had pain and definatley had EWCM yesterday which gets more noticable each month. My breasts feel swollen and only slightly tender today. You say that you get that, does it normally come once you have O? Every cycle for me at the moment has been very different but for the better Thankfully. My fertile signs seem to get stronger every month so am feeling more confident with every month that passes that my hormones and getting back to normal. I know it can take a few cycles.
Can't believe we O around the same time. We will now be entering the 2WW! Although will keep up with the maratthon just in case. AF for me is due around the 8th or 9th of December. They usually are 28 or 29 days but have had one cycle since MMC that was 31 days. Your AF must be due around the same time then? Am praying for us both!!! ;-)

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That's great that you are getting your fertile signs back! First, it means your hormones are stabilizing. Second, it makes TTC so much easier! I usually get sensitivity in my breasts both before and after I O, since both estrogen and progesterone may cause sore breasts. I usually feel tenderness a day before I O when estrogen is way up. Then breasts will be fine for a day or two and then get sore again due to progesterone rising. My body is super sensitive to all the hormonal changes and I feel EVERYTHING! That is why in all my pregnancies (even the non-viable one) I get REALLY sick from around 7-14 weeks. It is a very challenging time for me as I get 24/7 sickness. It never really goes away! My boobs also get hard as rocks and extremely sore! I am constantly fatigued and just feel plain awful! BUT, I will take it ALL as long as I can have my baby! When I think of all the discomfort of pregnancy NOW, I think of it with fondness, LOL.
How are you feeling during pregnancies?

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Btw,
I am so glad you had some fun time with your friend yesterday! It is so important to take some time off and recharge! Good for you :-)

With DS I was nauseous but M/S didn't really kick in until 10 weeks or so. My breasts were very sore and swollen but this didn't happen until about 6 weeks. I felt very much pregnant though from the start. With my non viable pregnancies I had slightly tender breats fo a few days and then just extreme tierdness. I knew something was wrong but didn't find out until I was 10.5 weeks both times. They don't scan in UK until your 12 weeks. The first time they scaned me as I had brown discharge altough I really had to fight for it as they said that can be common at 10 weeks gestation, although I never had it with my son so I knew it was bad news. That was on my son's 1st birthday! The 2nd time I couldn't wait until 10 week as new something was wrong so paid and went to a private clinic. So when we conceive again I would like all the pregnancy symtoms it can throw at me as I won't feel as anxious although as in your case you did have them. That must of been an awful shock as you had symptoms that all was progressing well. Did you have a feeling that something was wrong? I kept saying to my doctor that I did but he just said every pregnancy is different. They should listen to the Mother as I think we really have a 2nd sense when it comes to pregnancies and our children!!!
I'm sure now that I have O as CM is thickening up (sorry if TMI). My breasts feel swollen still. So think it might now be officially 2ww! Hope all ok with you and you and your family are having a lovely Thanks giving togther!!!

With DS I was nauseous but M/S didn't really kick in until 10 weeks or so. My breasts were very sore and swollen but this didn't happen until about 6 weeks. I felt very much pregnant though from the start. With my non viable pregnancies I had slightly tender breats fo a few days and then just extreme tierdness. I knew something was wrong but didn't find out until I was 10.5 weeks both times. They don't scan in UK until your 12 weeks. The first time they scaned me as I had brown discharge altough I really had to fight for it as they said that can be common at 10 weeks gestation, although I never had it with my son so I knew it was bad news. That was on my son's 1st birthday! The 2nd time I couldn't wait until 10 week as new something was wrong so paid and went to a private clinic. So when we conceive again I would like all the pregnancy symtoms it can throw at me as I won't feel as anxious although as in your case you did have them. That must of been an awful shock as you had symptoms that all was progressing well. Did you have a feeling that something was wrong? I kept saying to my doctor that I did but he just said every pregnancy is different. They should listen to the Mother as I think we really have a 2nd sense when it comes to pregnancies and our children!!!
I'm sure now that I have O as CM is thickening up (sorry if TMI). My breasts feel swollen still. So think it might now be officially 2ww! Hope all ok with you and you and your family are having a lovely Thanks giving togther!!!

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I couldn't agree with you more! Mothers know! I knew right from the beginning that something was off. I did so many HPTs since I was so insecure. My body didn't give me any signs that anything was wrong, because it felt just like any of my 2 healthy pregnancies, but my heart and soul knew! When I found out I was pregnant I prayed to my grandmother (who has passed away) to watch over my baby. My grandmother showed up in my dream and she was crying. I woke up with a terrible feeling that things aren't right. When the Dr. told me I wasn't shocked at all since I kinda prepared myself for that. It was still very difficult of course!
I don't know if you believe in these things or not (not sure I do either), but when I was 23 and studying in the university I had a friend who was an amateur in reading palms. I asked her to read mine. She told me among other things that I will have 2 girls and after the 2 girls I will have a m/c and after the m/c I will have a boy. Now that I have 2 girls and a m/c I find the coincidence quite remarkable. I hoped she was right and I will have a healthy pregnancy now. I don't care if it's a boy or a girl, I just want a healthy baby!
Don't worry about TMI! There is no such thing here in the TTC boards :-)
I think I am officially in the 2WW. I checked temp this morning and it was 36.7, which is my initial post O temp. Later is slowly rises again and reaches it's peak around 7 DPO. My temp actually rises with the progesterone rise and peaks when progesterone peaks. That is how sensitive my body is to hormonal changes :-) So, I believe yesterday was O day! We may have O at the exact same day :-)

I'm not sure sure whether I believe in that either but I try to be opened minded about most things. I had a reading with a medium in Oct 08. He asked me if I was thinking of having more children. I tole him that we were thinking of trying soon as I did't want a big gap between DS and his brother or sister. He told me that me and my DH were in for a tough 8 months and to stay strong and that DH's Gandfather was watching over us. He desvribed him as he is in a picyure of him that we have in our front room. His message to us was that he will make sure that we have another child and that it will not happen as quick as we first thought. I just shrugged it off but the thought was there. I fell pregnant in the November 08 and found out about MMC on the 2nd of Jan 09. I then fell again in Feb 09 and found out that had had another MMC in the April. The 8 months of bad luck was over in June but we are still waiting. When we were trying for DS I spoke to DH's Grandfather (DH was very close to him) and prayed that I fall pregnant that month and I did. We had our DS 14 years almost to the day that he died so we named him after his Great Grandfather. I keep saying to him, 'we're still waiting, is it going to be much longer?'
I know what you mean about not minding what sex baby you have. We would just be grateful for a healthy pregnancy and baby! I am getting so imatient. As my partner keeps saying' Good things come to those who wait!!'
Those fews days that I temped at the start of my cycle my temp was 36. I took it yetserday and it was 36.6. I've never completed a whole month of charting as gave up after a few days but do you think that could possible be a sign that I O? I know its difficult to say. I will take it again in the morning. My breasts have got even bigger today, they feel really heavy. So that must be because I O. So we are both in the 2week wait. I'm so pleased to feel like my body is actually showing signs of fertility. I was so worried! I am praying for us both! Lets hope the 2ww goes quickly. The last couple of weeks have since been chatting with you. We've now got each other to get through it! BABYDUST ;-)

OMG Sorry about all of the spelling mistakes!

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That is unbelievable! There are certainly things in this world that are hard to explain in a logical way! I know there is something more than what we know and see since I personally have had quite a few experiences in my life. Like you, I try to stay open to all possibilities! Why limit ourselves, right?
I do believe you O'd. Your temp is up and your boobs are sore, CM changed. You have got all the signs :-) So happy for you! It is always at this point that I feel it didn't work and then as I approach 10 DPO and start having IPS I start thinking "maybe" :-) Then symptoms come and go and I go back and forth with "maybe" to "no, that's not it". I hate this roller coaster! I pray to God and our guardian angels that it will happen for both of us soon, so we don't have to go through it much longer...

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Don't worry about the spelling! We all write so fast, we don't always catch it. The main thing is that we get the message :-)

I have IPS every month, I just hope that we have them for real this month. Its just a waiting game now! I'm praying for us both too. I talk to Angels. Angel Lailah is the angel of fertility, hope she is hearing us this month!
Forgot to take temp this morning. I so hope I O. Breasts still every. How is everything for you?
So, we must be 3DPO now? This is the time that feels like forever.
Hope you had a lovely Thanks giving ;-)

I have IPS every month, I just hope that we have them for real this month. Its just a waiting game now! I'm praying for us both too. I talk to Angels. Angel Lailah is the angel of fertility, hope she is hearing us this month!
Forgot to take temp this morning. I so hope I O. Breasts still every. How is everything for you?
So, we must be 3DPO now? This is the time that feels like forever.
Hope you had a lovely Thanks giving ;-)

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