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In the 2WW...

Hi Ladies,

So Babymed confirmed my O date as CD14 (last Thursday), so I'm moving over here! My niece is coming for a week long visit today, so I'm hoping that part of the wait goes by fast. Of course the second half is going to drag on and on, I'm sure! Good luck to everyone.

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

Good luck! Hopefully these two weeks will fly by with a BFP at the end!

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Mel! Where are you in your cycle?

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Sue0514 (not verified)

Good luck - holding thumbs for a BFP for u Dani :-)

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TXMommyNicole (not verified)

Good luck, Dani! Hope you get that BFP!

-Nicole

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happy1 (not verified)

I've got everything crossed for you!!!!!

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Sue, Nicole and Jenn. Let's get some sticky BFPs going soon!

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d_w (not verified)

Hi Ladies! Just checking in. I'm having a great time wiht my niece. She is wearing me out, though! ;-) But I wouldn't have it any other way.

Went to acu yesterday and he said my pulses were stronger than last week and that my temps were more even. My next appt. is next Thursday, which is when AF is due if I don't get a BFP. So if I do get a BFP, I wonder what my pulses will be like then.

Hope everyone is well!

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happy1 (not verified)

Thats great Dani-- my pulse was noticeably stronger when I had the BFP -- acu felt it, so did DH!!!

You're half way there!!!

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blueteam (not verified)

Awesome Dani! I'm glad that your niece is keeping you occupied and helping to make the TWW go by quickly. :)
I REALLY hope this is a BFP cycle for you!!!
J :)

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

Oh Dani I hope this is your month! I'm rooting for you!

Jen/happy (sorry i noticed i always type happy, just such a nice nickname ;) ) How are you doing? Looks like your temps are pretty regular? Mine have been so crazy all month. still haven't gotten AF yet! I'm on cd46 or 47. gah!~

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Jenn, J and Mel. I really appreciate all your support!

Mel, I'm so sorry your cycle is so long this time. Is it usually long or do you think your body isn't back to normal from your m/c?

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Natty1983 (not verified)

Dani,

I just wanted to wish you luck. I hope this is your cycle!!

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

it isn't this long normally. i'm thinking it's from the m/c. if AF doesn't come next week i have to make a doc. appt. oh well. at least it's fun to BD. :)

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Hi Dani,
I just wanted to say Good Luck and that I'm really hoping this will be your BFP cycle!!! It is definitely your time and I really hope this is it. Things seem to be looking ideal for a BFP.

I am happy to hear your pulse is strong! Next week if pregnant, then it should be really strong as blood circulation increases dramatically with pregnancy.
Steph

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chimera (not verified)

Dani -I'm really excited or you this cycle!

Mera :-)

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Cat, Natty, Steph and Mera! I really appreciate all the good wishes!

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d_w (not verified)

Hi Everyone,

I needed to vent about something and new all of you would be here to listen/read. I had lunch with my best friend today along with my niece. At lunch I was asking her about this crazy friend she has, who I know and am friendly with, but wouldn't call a friend. Anyway, this woman is 37 and is on her 3rd marriage. She has a 13 yr old dd with her 1st husband, a 9 yr old ds with her 2nd husband, a 10 yr old dss with her 3rd dh and a 2 yr old ds, also with her 3rd dh. She wants to have another baby and her dh does not. They are severely in debt and she is out of a job, but still has an au pair to help with her youngest ds. I knew that she had stopped her bc, but did not tell her dh. Like I said CRAZY! So at lunch I asked my best friend if she was pregant yet, which by the way I ask every single time I see my friend. And what do you know, today she told me yes. But she told me very reluctantly. And to top it off, she is already past her 1st tri as she is due in March. I asked my friend when she found out and she told me a while ago, but didn't tell me because she didn't want my feelings to be hurt. I don't really care that this woman is pregnant. I think she is quite foolish to trick her dh into having another baby, when he was adamant about not wanting another one, but to each is own. What really bugs me is that my friend didn't tell me. I realize she was trying to protect my feelings, but it hurts me more when she does this. This is not the first time she's done it, either. I'm a big girl and can deal with my feelings. I don't need anyone to protect me, except my dh. I don't know if I should just let it go, knowing that this is the way she is or to talk to her about it. I feel like she lied to me and that doesn't feel good. Any thoughts?

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Hi Dani

The world is full of people saying and doing the wrong things for what they think are the right reasons. I'm with you, I tend to be straightforward and people who are closest to me tend to know that I don't appreciate anything less back from my friends.

The short end of the stick is that people display weird behaviour when they feel uncomfortable about what they deem to be sensitive issues and this looks like a typical example. I suppose not all people are as strong as us :-)

I would tell her exactly what you told us - you are a big girl and can deal with your feelings and you' thank her not to try to "protect" your feelings in the future as it doesn't protect just undermine.

As for the mad friend of hers is concerned - she's obviously lacking something great in her life to have to deceive her husband like that - maybe all is not well in her marriage and shes grasping at straws who knows..

Mera x

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Mera. I appreciate your response.

I'm still not sure what I'm going to do with my friend.

As for her friend, it makes me sad to think that someone can trick their dh into having a child and yet there are so many of us along with our dh's that want to have a child and struggle so much. Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair. UGH!

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chimera (not verified)

Yes - I agree but she will never have as strong and happy bond as we'll have with our DH's when we have our children - and thats what counts, honesty is fundamental to a solid marriage - thats what children deserve to see from their parents. The way that woman conceived her child isn't the way I want to conceive mine and I'm sure you feel the same :-)

Its going to happen Dani - granted its not been a quick process like for some lucky ones but it will happen :-)

My Dr told me today that I should stop worrying about my age (same age as you) - she said that its terrible that woman feel as much pressure as they do as soon as they hit 35 - she told me she has 4 patients who had children with downs syndrome in their 20's and plenty more who had given birth in their late 30's to early 40's who have healthy children

Have a lovely weekend

Mera :-)

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

Dani,
i agree with Mera. Just tell her straight up so she won't do it again. :) people's best intentions don't always coincide with reality. anyway, what dpo are you?? i am praying for you and your dh!

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Mera and Mel!

You guys are right. I'll talk to her about this. Thanks for your advice.

Mel, I'm 8dpo. Thanks for your prayers. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, yet still staying positive. Did AF start for you yet?

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stevella (not verified)

babydust Dani!!!!!

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BabyBee (not verified)

Hi Dani,

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BabyBee (not verified)

Hi Dani, I would talk to your friend about it, but in a nice way. She obviously was just trying to protect you. I would nicely tell her that you appreciate it, but it's okay for her to tell you things...that her hiding things from you makes you feel a little alienated. On the other hand...I know what it feels like to have the exact opposite of that...I have a "friend" who seemed to love telling me about everyone we know who has "accidently" gotten pregnant. One of her text messages said... " I just found out that (Insert Random Name Here) is happily pregnant! What a Ho. Happy Friday!" I wanted to say....What makes you think I actually care? But I didn't...it's kind of hard when people know you are ttc for so long...I decided to just stop talking to people about it...only my family now.

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

lol, nope. going to test wednesday and then make a doct appt. i'm sure i'm not preg. just testing so they won't charge me 42 bucks for a preg test at the office.

i really hope this is your month Dani!!

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Dani,

I had a friend do the same thing to me. Someone that I'm friendly with, but wouldn't consider a friend, yet for whatever reason makes a point of trying to do whatever it is I'm doing. For example I got engaged.. All of a sudden she was back with her bf that she'd been broken up with for 6 months, and engaged planning a wedding for 6 months later. Then she found out we were ttc and she flat out said," Oh I'm so jealous, I wish Paul would let me have a baby." So she basically got pregnant on purpose, without her husband actually wanting a baby at that current time. Then asked my best friend to tell me, because she just didn't want to hurt my feelings. She actually sent me a message on facebook after she knew that I had been told and said," I'm glad to hear you handled the news well," along with some other garbage about how she didn't want to upset me because she knew we'd be trying and nothing had happened yet, and since it only took her like two months.............................

All that did was anger me as she made it sound like I could never have kids of my own and she felt horribly sorry for me. So I did tell her off.. I told her flat out that I was happy for her, but I don't appreciate the pity party, especially when she didn't know anything about my situation, and that if she had wanted me to know she was expecting then she should have the gutts to tell me honestly, and not set someone else up to do her dirty work for her. I also told her that I didn't have any fertility issues, and that it would happen for DH and I when it was meant to, and that she should mind her business, and not assume things about people just because they don't happen as quickly as they did for her.

Anyway I can understand your feelings because I was angry that my friend would have even considered hiding it from me the way she did, and then actually agreeing to tell me because the other girl didn't want to....

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d_w (not verified)

Thanks, Grace, Sarah, Mel and Natty! I appreciate everyone responding to my question. I still haven't talked to her, but I am planning to this week. I totally understand that she is just trying to help me, but it hurts me more. So that's what I'm going to say. And Sarah, I totally understand not talking about TTC. I only talk to you ladies and my dh about it. Although my best friend asks me about it all the time. I'm just really vague with her....Natty and Grace, you're half way there! OMG. I can't believe how fast it's gone!

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d_w (not verified)

Mel, maybe you'll have a surprise this month! Only 2 more days until you test!!!

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BabyBee (not verified)

Me too! I only talk to you girls about it...and family! I can't believe how fast time has gone either!! Can't wait til you girls have your babies! Try to stick around to be oour cheer leaders =)

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Natty1983 (not verified)

The time sure has flown by.. I can't believe it myself! I will definately stick around to cheer you ladies on.. I'm sure that you are all headed for BFP's soon!!

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happy1 (not verified)

Dani,

Just checking in, waiting for some news from your end....

I too am surrounded by people saying dumb things, or doing dumb things, one of my best friends is a total one-upper --- she had her baby last May, and asks me EVERY TIME we talk (which has become much less frequent because of this) what was going on, if I had seen a fertility doctor or had any tests run....
Her husband actually asked me and DH "what was going on with all that" at his sons birthday party with like 40 of their relatives there, in random social conversation. I diverted, started talking about our vacation plans, and the idiot actually said "well, no, I meant what was going on with you getting pregnant" -- I thought DH was going to freak.

So, either people have NO filter (what do they call that, diahhrea of the mouth?), or they think they are doing you a favor by keeping you in the dark -- both suck, especially when these people are supposed to be friends

Well, good luck, I hope you get your BFP!!!!

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Hi Dani,
I just really hope you get a BFP. It's horrible that people who are supposed to be friends can say or do such rude things. I basically eliminate such people from my circle of friends. (But don't use me as an example as I don't follow "love your enemy" but instead follow "avoid all toxic or negative people and only associate with loving, positive, genuine people who sincerely care".)

Jenn - I had a similar experience as you. Over Memorial weekend, we were attending a birthday event for my DH's birthday. Some family friends were hosting this party. Well, his brother, 3 nieces, sister and brother-in-law all came down for it. We rented a cabin on top of a mountains so I could have a dual vacation weekend and his brother's b-day even. I even had his brother and nieces stay the night with us the one night they were there. I met these family friends for the first time since I've been married and I actually liked them. Well, apparently the woman hosting the party was speaking with her sister that night and they were talking about me etc. (in a nice way - I found out the next day). However, the day after the big birthday event, we went there for breakfast. While sitting at the breakfast table, in front of my in-laws (whom I don't talk to about anything personal), asked "How old are you?". I said "I don't discuss my age with anyone." I never discuss age with anyone because so much has been made an issue about age and having a baby that I resent this topic. She was shocked by that response and she said " I didn't mean to offend you, I was just wondering because my sister and I were talking last night and we thought you wanted children and we were wondering about your age due to fertility". That was amazing - here the whole reason I don't discuss age is due to fertility and that is exactly why she brought it up. I was stunned - just stunned. My DH was silent. I just curtly said "Well, we plan to have children and fortuntately, I have excellent fertility as I've been tested. I said my DH's does too as he's been tested." Keep in mind this was one day before I was scheduled to have the hysteroscopic D&C and I was not interested in opening up this topic to any of these people. I knew my fertility would be excellent once I had the procedure. Also, this was before we learned that my DH had a sperm morphology issue as all the other sperm testing had been excellent." Well, the whole table was silent as you can imagine.

After they all got up and went outside, I told this woman, regarding your question about my wanting to have children, I said I was offended but I know you didn't mean to offend me. I was mostly offended because I have been through hell with my DH and with my in-laws and I have had to delay starting a family because of that. I said, I am ready to have children now but we weren't ready when I first got married. She was pretty understanding about it all.

Steph

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sc_tc (not verified)

Jenn - it was my DH's brother's birthday not my DH's. In any case, that whole episode caused me to not want to see those people or communicate with any of them until after we have a baby. I only share my fertility struggles with my close girlfriends and a few acquaintances who are understanding offer encouragement. Of course, I usually share the most details with all of you on BM as you know exactly what we each go through emotionally and otherwise.
Steph

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

:)
i'm in the same boat, i only talk about ttc stuff on here. i avoid anyone who would bring it up b/c what else can i say? why make myself feel horrible...lame.

i may delay testing. my temps are really low, so i really don't think i am. i'm hoping i am O'ing right now, so the next three days will be telling for me.

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BabyBee (not verified)

Dani!I just realized we are on the exact same cycle day! I am almost driving myself insane I think, hahaha.

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TXMommyNicole (not verified)

I'm right there with you ladies. Our TTC is only discussed between me and my DH...and it's SO hard to keep it from my mom and best friends! Although I think his mom suspects something. She's looking at me funny and always asking how I'm feeling. LOL It will be nice when I can actually make that BFP annoucement!

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d_w (not verified)

Thank you to everyone for your guidance and good wishes. I truly appreciate it. Sadly this is not my month. My temp dropped to 98 today and got a BFN. I had a feeling I wasn't preggo this month. I'm disappointed and sad. But as soon as AF starts it will be on to another month. Thanks again everyone!

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TXMommyNicole (not verified)

Sorry about the BFN, Dani. I'm rooting for you next cycle!

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Natty1983 (not verified)

Sorry about the BFN Dani.

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Jescarl (not verified)

I'm so sorry for the BFN i now you are really looking foward for that BABY maybe next month you should wait until that ugly AF dosent show up before you test..I think that next month will be the happy month GOOD LUCK MOMMY TO BE...

HUGS
JESSICA

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Sue0514 (not verified)

Sorry bout the BFN Dani....

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BabyBee (not verified)

Dani, you are only on CD 26 though! There is still hope...if AF doesn't come by CD 28...test again! I am cramping and started spotting late last night...I am sure AF will show tomorrow or Thursday...right on time...boo! I hope AF doesn't show for you at all!

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chimera (not verified)

Its the second time I've been utterly shocked to here you've had a BFN I'm just so convinced a BFP is due for you - I hope that you can take comfort in DH, have a good cry and soldier on to this cycle feeling positive - sending a big bear hug your way

Mera

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mrl25ttcn2 (not verified)

Dani-I'm sorry! Are your cycles pretty regular that you know AF is on her way?

i doubt i'll get that surprise. my temps are still a mess. i don't mind for some insane reason. i'll make the call next week.

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fancy (not verified)

Sorry Dani, hang in there my friend I know it is gonna happen!

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blueteam (not verified)

Dani,
I'm so sorry about the BFN. I know what a let down it can be. But, I'm with Mel and Sarah...maybe there is still hope this cycle! It could just be too early to test (BFP). I have everything crossed for you!!
J

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TXMommyNicole (not verified)

Oh, I didn't know you were only on CD26, Dani. That BFP may be just around the corner still!

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TXMommyNicole (not verified)

Gah, I now have even more faith for someone on these boards to come up with a BFP...just got an e-mail that another friend of mine is expecting. C'mon, Dani -- take one for the team! *giggles*

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