Choosing the right obstetrician is important to any pregnant couple however, when the parents are gay or lesbian, certain interview questions may change a bit in order to assure the chosen obstetrician has no problems with parental sexual orientation. Choosing the right obstetrician is important to any pregnant couple however, when the parents are gay or lesbian, certain interview questions may change a bit in order to assure the chosen obstetrician has no problems with parental sexual orientation. Carrying and giving birth to a child is an intimate experience that should be filled with joy and excitement. If parents feel threatened or uncomfortable in this intimate time, the experience will not hold the beauty it should.

The Interview Process
Before choosing any obstetrician, expecting parents should interview several to find a doctor that meets most of their needs. There is no perfect situation where the doctor is ideal from every angle, but the interview process is about more than just positive answers. While the interview is taking place, parents can observe how the doctor reacts to certain questions. If a nurse enters the room, how does he or she address the staff? Moreover, for the gay or lesbian parents, how does the doctor react when asked about same sex relationships and parenting?

More of a Gut Feeling Than an Answer
Gay and lesbian parents may have to go on a gut feeling rather than a specific set of answers. If an obstetrician believes in all the same parenting and birthing beliefs held by the parents that does nothing if there is a feeling of unease in the room during the interview.

Phone a Friend for Help

One fantastic source of doctor referrals is friends. Have any other gay or lesbian couples in your area given birth recently? The doctor they used for prenatal care may be the right choice. However, even though the obstetrician has clearly been a part of a gay or lesbian birth that does not mean the interview process can be skipped. Every set of parents is different and ask different questions, so it is important you conduct your own interview process.

Local Resources – Gay and Lesbian Publications
Local and international gay and lesbian websites are available to help research the best doctor. While websites headquarters may not be located within driving distance, forums and online discussions may prove beneficial when choosing an obstetrician. Some doctors may also choose to run ads online or in print publications for their obstetrical care.

Why Not Your Own Gynecologist?
If lesbian parents are going to be giving birth, why not choose the current gynecologist? Many gynecologists also deliver babies so this could be the solution you have been waiting for, right under your nose.

Choosing the right obstetrician is important to any pregnant couple. However, when the parents are gay or lesbian, certain interview questions may change a bit in order to assure the chosen obstetrician has no problems with parental sexual orientation. Carrying and giving birth to a child is an intimate experience that should be filled with joy and excitement. If parents feel threatened or uncomfortable in this intimate time, the experience will not hold the beauty it should.

The Interview Process
Before choosing any obstetrician, expecting parents should interview several to find a doctor that meets most of their needs. There is no perfect situation where the doctor is ideal from every angle, but the interview process is about more than just positive answers. While the interview is taking place, parents can observe how the doctor reacts to certain questions. If a nurse enters the room, how does he or she address the staff? Moreover, for the gay or lesbian parents, how does the doctor react when asked about same sex relationships and parenting?

More of a Gut Feeling Than an Answer
Gay and lesbian parents may have to go on a gut feeling rather than a specific set of answers. If an obstetrician believes in all the same parenting and birthing beliefs held by the parents that does nothing if there is a feeling of unease in the room during the interview.

Phone a Friend for Help
One fantastic source of doctor referrals is friends. Have any other gay or lesbian couples in your area given birth recently? The doctor they used for prenatal care may be the right choice. However, even though the obstetrician has clearly been a part of a gay or lesbian birth that does not mean the interview process can be skipped. Every set of parents is different and ask different questions, so it is important you conduct your own interview process.

Local Resources – Gay and Lesbian Publications
Local and international gay and lesbian websites are available to help research the best doctor. While websites headquarters may not be located within driving distance, forums and online discussions may prove beneficial when choosing an obstetrician. Some doctors may also choose to run ads online or in print publications for their obstetrical care.